Tonic for Life is Open for Business

When I made the decision to pursue certification in sex and relationship coaching last summer I was looking for a way to make a living doing the one thing I’m really good at: loving people. And I do really love people. I think most of the humans I’ve been able to know past even a surface level have been fascinating. I love how weird humans are. I love them so much it hurts to live in a world where so many of us are suffering. It hurts to see how much we hurt each other because we are scared. We just want love and safety but our need for them scares us. Being honest, I’m scared by it also. There’s reason to be scared. Every single person has been hurt by someone they loved. Sometimes a lot.

I’ve loved a lot of humans. And not just in the spiritual sense mentioned above. I’ve fallen a little in love with every person I’ve ever kissed. Sharing myself with others through words or with my body has usually felt easy and playful. This is a rare gift. Most of the people I know haven’t experienced feeling a joy in sharing who they are with others. A lot of people seem to struggle to connect with others. I seem to find it pretty easy, although that hasn’t always been the case. I love making friends and going on dates. So that’s why I decided to become a sex coach. I felt that my ability to connect easily with someone might be able to help that person learn how to connect with other people as well. So I started googling different therapies and found the Somatica Institute.

It feels like dumb luck that I managed to find a program that was teaching exactly what I wanted to learn, since I had no idea what is was when I started looking. As I read about the Somatica Method I realized that they were describing what I’d experienced in so many of my relationships already. How you learn to be good at relationships when you are in a relationship. How noticing and being in your body makes connecting with people much easier. I was sold.

When I started the program last October I didn’t expect that I would end up having quite as much personal growth as I did. To be frank, I kind of thought I already knew everything and the certification was just to prove it. But after spending six months doing somatic work on myself while learning the tools of the trade I can honestly say that I was a fucking idiot.

I’ve learned so much about myself in the past six months. I’m so confident that I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been and so horrified that I didn’t realize how much growth I still needed. So now I’m officially a Somatica Trained sex coach, able to see clients and start my business. And how could I not be scared? What more is there that I don’t know? Am I really good enough for this?

What Somatica really taught me was not the answers but how to live the questions, to quote one of my favorite books. I don’t know what growth will be in store for me this year. I don’t know if I’m good enough for this. But I know that the only way to find out is to do it. And I know that I will be ok even if the answer is no.

So all of that is to say: I’m now accepting clients! Do you have questions of your own? Questions about yourself? About what you want or how to find what you know you want? Questions about your relationship? About compatibility or how to find the exotic in the familiar? If so perhaps we can both “live” into some answers together.

If this sounds good to you, for new clients I’m doing a special of three sessions for the price one ($100). Fill out this form and I will contact you shortly for an initial video session. After that additional sessions can be virtual or in person in Cincinnati. I look forward to hearing from you.

This post was originally published on Substack.