When you meet me for the first time you might think I’ve always been the sex positive hippy and confident flirt I am today. I have a life full of meaningful relationships, I make art with my friends for fun, and I love what I do for a living. But for much of my life I felt like an alien who didn’t understand the strange mating rituals of the humans around me.

Like a lot of neurodivergent people I needed some explicit instruction in social skills and supportive people around me before I started to feel comfortable in my own skin. I was drawn to kink and non-monogamy as a young adult and have been active in those communities for 15 years. That was where I first learned the power of direct communication and consent culture, both of which helped me to take control of my sexual expression and connect more authentically.

As I became more confident, I started to notice the people hanging out at the edges of the events I attended - those wanting to connect but unsure how to find their way into the conversations and fun happening around them. I noticed them because I was that person for so much of my life. It made me so happy whenever I could reach out to someone new to a community and help them navigate their way into the kind of connections they were looking for.

I became a sex coach because I wanted to help even more people find their way into the sex and relationships they want. When I discovered the Somatica® Institute I felt like a mutant who just discovered Professor X’s School for Gifted Youngsters. I knew I had a gift but I didn’t know how to use it effectively. Their approach to teaching the skills of intimacy was so aligned with my values and lived experience it felt like coming home.

Today I use the skills I learned from Somatica® along with my previous experience as a special education teacher to teach the social skills of intimacy to people who want deeper and more authentic sexual and romantic connections. Think of working with me like the tutorial level of a video game. We can practice the skills you will need for the real game over and over until you feel comfortable and you won’t lose any lives. My clients learn what an authentic connection feels like so they are better able to find that connection with others. We work on everything from self acceptance to exploring kink to help you become your best sexual self.

The person I am today feels like the person I’ve always been on the inside. I just didn’t know how to become that on the outside. It took a long time but I’m finally figuring out how to do that. It feels even better than I imagined. You deserve the same thing for yourself. Let’s work together and to make that happen.

“I never thought I would get to be, the creature that I’d always meant to be.” - The Pet Shop Boys, Being Boring